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Anonymous asked: 41 & 42 :)
Alright, I’m going to break this into two, since they’re both going to be long. Sorry not sorry.
#42 first: who is your biggest inspiration?
OK, so, I wrote up a long thing on how my parents are my biggest inspiration (which is true), but it ended up being way too personal to share with The Internet.
So instead, I’m going to call out @caprichista, one of my best friends and also just one of the best beings. We’ve been friends for about a decade now, which is crazy, and you guys? She’s taught me so much about how to be a better human.
When I started college, I was really afraid about this whole Making Friends thing. Most of my friends prior to that point had been friendships of convenience, because I grew up in a small suburban area. I had ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA how to interact with a friend without being sarcastic and insincere, since I had convinced myself that the only way my friends would keep hanging out with me is if I was funny enough to be kept around but never too serious or too Me to scare them off.
And, like. I didn’t have to do that around her. As soon as we became friends I felt Seen.
Being friends with her has taught me how to be sincere with the people I care about. She has helped me realize that the people who really matter shouldn’t view you as a burden, and that Real Human Emotion is valuable. She’s also one of the most frighteningly intelligent and clever people I’ve ever met. The amount of thought she puts into everything she does is incredible, and basically everything she says is devastatingly clever and/or poignant.
Basically, as long as we stay friends, I am confident that I will continue to become a better and better person, and since I never thought I would have a friend like that, that’s sort of incredible.
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Anonymous asked: Seven, seventeen, seventy
#7 favorite fruits?
I really like grapefruit! For awhile I couldn’t eat it because it interacted poorly with one of my meds, and now I can, and I am an incorrigible grapefruit monster now. Also, blood oranges. I will eat every single blood orange put in front of me.
#17 what is your biggest fear?
I do have a few very specific phobias, most of which are pretty new developments. I’m /severely/ emetophobic, and have gotten a lot more claustrophobic recently. Hair also triggers some weird fear reflex in me. In terms of more philosophical fears, this is a pretty common one, but my loved ones dying literally keeps me up at night. My parents are older, and my dad is the last of four siblings, and I occasionally get paralytic fear about their mortality. Once I realized that my fiancée is also mortal and had a massive, prolonged panic attack.
Also, eels. Moray eels frighten and fascinate me in equal measure.
#70 what is your biggest fear?
Why the duck-billed platypus?
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Anonymous asked: #2
There are So Many Animals and I want to be all of them. A counselor at the previously-mentioned Jewish Nature Camp once compared me to a sea turtle, gliding along and enjoying the view. A former partner once compared me to a tardigrade, which felt pretty great, because water bears are resilient as fuck and are the ultimate survivors. I think she might have mostly meant Very Small though, which isn’t wrong. (Hi
<3)
But, the question is what /I/ think, isn’t it? OK. So. Otters. They can kind of be huge jerks, but they’re also incredibly clever and resourceful (they’re one of the few non-human animals to be repeatedly recording using tools! That’s so fucking cool you guys!). They’re generally pretty chill, but incredibly scrappy and aggressive when provoked, and can hold their own in a fight against predators larger than them. They’re fluffy and adorable but can mess adversaries up if need be. They’re often underestimated but remarkably competent. I feel like that’s honestly a pretty good analogy for me, to be honest.
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caprichista asked: 32
Once, when I was trying to comfort a spooked cabinmate at Jewish Nature Camp, she told me that “I have really scary eyes when I want to,” and although it was entirely antithetical to the effect I was trying to achieve, I still feel incredibly proud of this. I have those color-changing, Stormy Grey/Ember Green/Ocean Blue eyes of a fanfiction protagonist, so I’m pretty sure I have a magical destiny waiting for me.
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(I’m still sort of Tumblr-incompetent, so I have no idea if my answers to asks are going through, but I can’t see them? Lemme know if y’all can. I don’t know how to Social Media you guys. I’m trying so hard.)
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1. are you religious?
2. what animal do you think you’re most like?
3. how do you take your coffee?
4. how old were you when you had your first kiss?
5. museum date or aquarium date?
6. do you have any tattoos or piercings? do you want more?
7. favorite fruits?
8. favorite vegetables?
9. i’ll only date you if _____. (fill in the blank)
10. do you cry a lot?
11. who are your closest friends?
12. have you ever been a part of a protest or a march?
13. do you play any video games?
14. did you ever have an emo or scene phase?
15. what color is most of your wardrobe?
16. what do you like to do for fun?
17. what is your biggest fear?
18. name a subject you know a lot about.
19. favorite fictional characters?
20. do you read a lot? what are your favorite books?
21. how would you describe your style?
22. did you have a favorite stuffed animal when you were little? do you still own it?
23. what’s something most people love that you hate?
24. do you think you’re a good singer?
25. who do you live with?
26. favorite desserts?
27. what is the best decision you’ve made in your life so far?
28. favorite makeup brands?
29. favorite clothing stores/brands?
30. what was your first job?
31. do you take a lot of naps?
32. what is your favorite part about your body?
33. are you more dominant or more submissive?
34. are you more outgoing or more shy?
35. how tall are you?
36. what is your body type?
37. favorite flower?
38. favorite planet?
39. what do you want to dress up as for halloween this year?
40. do you prefer to date people the same age as you, younger, or older?
41. describe the person you’re in love with/have a crush on in great detail.
42. who is your biggest inspiration?
43. do you have any kinks?
44. do you own any pets?
45. which celebrity do people say you look the most like?
46. do you like sports?
47. have you ever seen a broadway musical?
48. what is your favorite kind of food?
49. would you rather be a fairy or a mermaid?
50. what is your instagram?
51. glossy lips or matte lips?
52. do you like cherry, grape, blue raspberry, watermelon, or green apple jolly ranchers the best?
53. what are your best personality traits?
54. what is your ethnicity?
55. what different hair colors have you had?
56. favorite disney princess?
57. favorite album of 2017?
58. have you ever had braces?
59. favorite holiday?
60. post a selfie.
61. are you a good swimmer?
62. do you wear jewelry?
63. can you play any instruments?
64. do you have any siblings?
65. are your grandparents still alive? how old are they?
66. who knows the most about you?
67. are you a more quiet person or do you talk a lot?
68. what advice would you give to your 13 year old self?
69. how many pillows do you sleep on?
70. ask any question you’d like.
Sorry for spamming y'all with ask memes but I’ve had a rough day and could use some distractions so I picked the first one I could find, send me asks to help me decompress!
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how to keep your tumblr friendly and safe for epileptics
First of all, epilepsy comes all different ways. I am talking about epileptics that can actually look at screens.
Second of all, I don’t have epilepsy and so please add to this if you know more.
Step 1: NOTHING on your blog which has flashing lights
Step 2: NOTHING on your blog that starts making noise randomly
Step 3: NOTHING on your blog that tells people to blow on their screens.
Step 4: CHECK. A LOT.
Step 5: gentle colours- safe from eye strain
Step 6: have an ask box
Step 7: let people know its epilepsy friendly!!
Step 8: BE CAREFUL BEFORE YOU REBLOG!
Step 9: if you have a 2nd, non-epilepsy safe blog, TAG ALL EPILEPSY WARNINGS!! This is really important!!
Step 10: Encourage people to send an ask if anything isn’t epilepsy friendly.
Note: You might be thinking ‘oh but if they have epilepsy, then they can just leave the blog!’ This isn’t true, at least in most cases it is false. People with epilepsy are often drawn to bright and flashing lights. Don’t expect them to be able to leave so easily!!
Please look at this it’s important!!
I’m moving it up again y'all
Hi! Epileptic here
You really don’t have to free your blog of flashing/loud/or otherwise triggering content if you don’t want to
All we ask is that you tag these things correctly so we may blacklist them and enjoy your blog
Proper tags include, but are not limited to: #tw flashing #tw flashing lights #flashing #flashing// #epilepsy warning #seizure warning
Or any variation of those
Do not tag them as #epilepsy
I know you mean well, but a lot of epileptics have had to unfollow that tag because it was too polluted with flashing lights
I’m glad you’re thinking of us, but like I said, you don’t have to remove content from your blog, just tag it with a common trigger tag
And, if someone asks you to tag something, then be respectful and tag it for them. Do not argue with them
1 in 26 people are epileptics
If you have more than 26 followers, chances are you have epileptics following you
Thank you for listening
Reblog this version!!! Please!!!
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Anonymous asked: 6. Favorite death!
As far as can remember I’ve never had a D&D PC die, I’ve been fairly fortunate for character deaths! So instead, I’m going to tell a story about my favorite LARP death.
My undergraduate had a year-long, weekly LARP each year. My sophomore year, we ran a Legend of the Five Seas/Seventh Sea crossover. My partner at the time and I rolled up two Rokugani, a reserved, diplomatic courtier (him) and a brash, impulsive bushi (me). Things Went Done in a big way, and my partner and I came up with the plan that we could make a deal with The Big Bad. Long story short, he took both of our hearts. He also happened to have the heart of the husband of another friend of ours. None of us were super happy with being undead, and Naoko at least was of the opinion that all three of us would be better off Actually Dead. She wasn’t actively contemplating self-endangerment, but if her heart were just like. sitting out somewhere…
So, during Bluebooking, one of our STs calls my partner and I into a scene with The Big Bad. There’s a box on his desk. We have some plot relevant conversation, he steps out.
Naoko opens the box.
Inside is a heart.
She looks at her husband Jin. Out the door to see where the Big Bad is. I glance up at my partner and our ST.
“I stab the heart.”
A moment of silence, then Partner and ST double over in laughter. Partner asks me if I’m serious. ST goes to get co-ST because “he wasn’t gonna wanna miss this.”
OK, ST says. This heart could be one of four peoples’. Yours, Jin’s, Friend’s, and Big Bad’s. How do you like those chances?
“Best case scenario, I kill the person we’ve actively been trying to kill. Worst case scenario I kill one of three abomination. I like those chances.”
Probably Partner pointed out that I /could/ view the worst case scenario as a) killing MYSELF or b) killing my HUSBAND, but Naoko was deep into the “undead are monsters oh god why are we still here” train of thought and also Naoko Makes Bad Choices.
“Roll a d6”
I roll.
“Congratulations, you stabbed yourself in the heart.”
“NEAT, I’ll take it!”
My dear angry Mantis was my first, and to date only, character death, but that remains one of my favorite in-game decisions ever.
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One of the most infuriating things about chronic illness (for me) is the lack of planning. I need to point out here that I have both autism and OCD, both of which involve strict planning and organising for my brain to function (somewhat) peacefully.
Let’s disregard (for now) future plans, life goals, milestones, important events, and so on and let’s think short term.
- “I need to sleep now but it’s too early. If I nap now, will I be able to sleep normally later or will I throw off my sleep cycle that will take days to restore?
- “I promised X I would help with Y at 9:00am this morning. It’s currently 7:30. I feel like death and I’m waiting for meds to kick in. How close can I cut it with a definite answer while still showing respect and consideration?”
- “Similarly, this appointment is tomorrow and there’s a -24hr cancellation fee. Will I be able to make it or should I reschedule now and miss out?”
- “I have to go downstairs to get X, Y, and Z items. I can only carry two items at a time, how can I do the least amount of trips without hurting myself on the stairs?” (Bonus points for figuring this out through fog.)
- “I have X amount of pain medication left before refill, and I’m flaring now but what if I flare again tomorrow?”
Now apply these questions to everything an abled person might take for granted - cooking, laundry, shopping, shower, financial budgeting (including emergency funds for medical care and emergency takeout food so you don’t starve when you can’t cook), socialising, sex, obligations, studying, work, sleep. Then add guilt on top of all of that, worrying you’re not trying hard enough.
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Can someone tell me how to help LGBTQ people in Brunei without just telling me to boycott luxury hotels I already don’t go to??
Boycott Shell.
Boycott Shell
Boycott Shell. Idgaf if this is boring quit scrolling and rb
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Nothing But the Rain
Archaeology nerd, law student, chronically ill, likes video games. They/their. Sometimes I talk about law school.